Sunday, December 01, 2013

Young Masters of Time & Space

A New Workshop for Kids
Who Want to Do Hard Things!

     Saturday, December 14, 2013 

     9:00 AM to 3:00 PM (PST)
     New Life Church, River Falls Campus,
     West Linn, Oregon

I am developing a new workshop called Young Masters of Time & Space
You can find out more HERE at the Noble Institute Site.

This new workshop is designed especially for teens and their parents, but anyone who wants to do hard things for the glory of God and the good of others will want to attend.

Here are just a few of the topics I will address:

• How to make the most of your "free time" without losing your ability to enjoy time with family and friends.

• How to decide what you want to do with your life (e.g. college, career choice, military service, marriage,etc.) while still being appropriately flexible and open to whatever doors God may open to you in your future

• How to organize your room or your desk area as a workspace and a simple filing system for making the most of your time and space

• How to set clear and passionate goals that stir the emotions enough to overwhelm your normal fear of failure

• How to tap into God's design of your mind to delight in making ingenious plans that help to make good things happen in your future

• How to overcome procrastination and disorganization with the overwhelming force of a dedicated life.

• How to live each day with no regrets in eternity and far fewer casualties in your family

• How to shake that terrible nagging feeling that no matter what you are doing at the moment, you ought to be doing something else.

Now, I realize that some parents think these kinds of issues are above the heads of Junior High and High School kids. Not so! When presented with stories, with humor and with clear analogies, kids 12 and up get excited. High school and especially college bound young people really get into the ideas.  They can see how it all works.

A major aspect of raising kids to do hard things is raising OUR expectations concerning what our young people will take an interest in.

Parents and grandparents also find the insights very helpful, at home and on the job.  That's why I offer my Family Rate. It keeps costs down for the whole household.

Before I sign off, let me ask you this. Who do you know that needs this kind of training?

Who in your circle of friends, family and church could have their life turned around by the topics listed above?

Why not get them on the phone, or send them an email, urging them to either attend the workshop with you in the Portland Area (drive or fly in together). Or, if that's not possible, why not host the workshop for the youth groups and high school students in your community?

You will be so glad you did.

Thanks for doing what you can to make this new event life-changing for as many people as possible.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

The 21 Rules of This House

The 21 Rules of This House, listed below, cover just about every situation common to young children and teens. They were developed over 30 years ago to help my wife and me be more consistent in what we required of our children as members of our household. It is so easy to allow our own moods to change the boundaries of what we will tolerate from one day to the next. In far too many homes the only real rule is to stay out of Mom or Dad's way when they are in a bad mood. Otherwise, when they are in agood mood, the kids can get away with almost anything. The goal in the use of the 21 Rules is to clarify what is pleasing and displeasing to parents, regardless of their moods, and to administer discipline without anger, and then only in response to willful defiance of what the child knows to be right.

My oldest son, Joshua Harris, now a respected author and pastor, illustrated each house rule for a coloring book when he was just 14 years old. We published it successfully for many years. Used copies are still available occasionally through's Used Book search engine. I post them here in response to many requests from families with younger children.

The 21 Rules Of This House
by Gregg Harris

1. We obey God.
2. We love, honor and pray for one another.
3. We tell the truth.
4. We consider one anothers interests ahead of our own.
5. We speak quietly and respectfully with one another.
6. We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds.
7. When someone needs correction, we correct him in love.
8. When someone is sorry, we forgive him.
9. When someone is sad, we comfort him.
10. When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.
11. When we have something nice to share, we share it.
12. When we have work to do, we do it without complaining.
13. We take good care of everything that God has given us.
14. We do not create unnecessary work for others.
15. When we open something, we close it.
16. When we take something out, we put it away.
17. When we turn something on, we turn it off.
18. When we make a mess, we clean it up.
19. When we do not know what to do, we ask.
20. When we go out, we act just as if we were in this house.
21. When we disobey or forget any of the 21 Rules of This House, we accept the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Instructions: Post the list on your refrigerator door or other prominent location in your home. When misbehavior occurs, draw attention to which House Rule has been violated and repeat the rule a few times and explain what it means. Once the meaning becomes clear, discipline your child for any expressions of willful defiance. Over time, the rules will be internalized by each child as a general statement of the behavioral boundaries. Remember that these rules follow you and your child wherever they go. Discipline should only be administered in private, in love for the child, never in anger or in any way that would ever do harm. The challenge is to be consistent so that such discipline is eventually no longer needed.